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7 August 2019

Why not a brave-making date?

My husband, Gary, and I had several favorite trails in the Oregon Cascades. One of my brave-making goals is to eventually re-hike all of them. Alone.

 

The moraine lake tucked into Broken Top at 8,150 feet (All photos: Marlys – none enhanced)

For those new to the blog, I’ve written from time to time about brave-making ventures that help neutralize fear or anxiety brought on by widowhood.

Hence, the goal of re-hiking all our favorite wilderness trails. And keeping Friday date night. Alone.

But here’s a new twist: why not a brave-making Friday date?

And so, this past Friday, I trekked up to the moraine lake tucked into the east slope of Broken Top, an extinct and glacially-eroded volcano.

This thought from an author unknown:

And into the forest I go, to lose my mind and find my soul.

The hike up to the moraine lake in Broken Top begins along a small shaded canal with old growth and new growth and wild color.

 

It eventually breaks out into the open where piles of rocks and masses of wildflowers color the landscape.

After crossing a couple of snow fields, and clamoring up a narrow trail clinging to the side of a hill (think mountain goat), the reward is an unbelievably gorgeous sea-foam green lake formed from a glacier.

 

This thought from Nanea Hoffman:

You are here. Figure out what you love and then pursue it relentlessly. It’s OK to be scared. Just don’t let that be your excuse for not trying.

Cultivating courage is an ongoing process. It’s not a once-and-done thing.

During the seasonal changes of our lives that we didn’t ask for—single again after being part of a couple, emptying our nests, aging, loss of a loved one, or the trauma of a serious diagnosis—it’s simpler, more comfortable, less risky to stay home. To watch other people lead adventurous lives.

But …

Great things never come from comfort zones. – Author unknown

What if?

To finish out my date, I sat in Drake Park by the river with a book—because Gary and I enjoyed a number of Drake-Park-in-lawn-chair dates back when he didn’t feel well enough to venture out very far.

This lovely laziness was followed by fish tacos at Spork. Friday full-day date. Alone. But rewarding. And today, I’m feeling a little braver than I did a few days ago.

What if we drafted a list of brave-making ventures we’d eventually like to tackle? And what if we established some epic memories and built deeper courage by venturing out?

2 Comments
  • Deb says:

    Hi Marlys! I recently discovered your blog and have read every entry. I’m not even sure now how I came here, but I want to thank you for being such an inspiration to me. I am also a widow, 2 years this week, and a blogger, although a very infrequent one. My husband also had cancer and we too chose to count the things for which we were thankful and count our blessings each day of his illness. God was so faithful to us through that time!
    I thought I was doing well the first year of being without my husband of 46 years, but this second year I moved to a new state and it has been much more difficult. I continue to count gifts and be thankful, to choose joy, but I have lost my partner in adventure and travel and I have been unsure how to move forward alone. It seemed too daring to travel by myself and all my close friends still have their husbands and are not available to travel with me. Your brave making posts have been so motivating! As a result of your sharing these, I have just booked my first solo trip! For my birthday in October I am flying to Santa Fe, doing a hot air balloon flight, a Jeep tour and more! All by myself! As you quoted in this post, “ It’s okay to be scared. Just don’t let that be your excuse for not trying”. So, I’m making my list of other brave making adventures and looking forward to my birthday adventure. Thank you!

    • You’re awesome, Deb. A hot air balloon flight, Jeep tour, and more. In Santa Fe. Sounds perfect. Here’s wishing you an incredibly brave-making, fun, memorable birthday celebration in October!


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Hello, my name is Marlys Johnson. I’m a cancer widow, author, speaker and blogger. I love getting outdoors; would rather lace up hiking boots than go shopping. I have a passion for repurposing old junk into cool new stuff. And an even greater passion for showing people how to navigate life’s challenges. Tenaciously. And with heart wide open.

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